kuTumbaka

Family


The reason why I picked on this word is because I love my family more than anything else in this world, for that matter who doesn't???

I picked on this video to start of this topic is because no matter what function a family or rather a dynasty get's together nothing can beat the get together of a family for a marriage and if that marriage is appreciated by everyone, in the sense agreed to by everyone then nothing like it, the celebration can go on for days together. It is but obvious that in India, till recently, atleast marriage was not just the union of two people, it was, and in most parts, still is merging/union of two dynasties

Now before I start off I will as is my wont give you other words that mean family

paricaara
parivaara
jaati
vyapadeza
vaMza
kuTumba
gotra
kula

Although words like kula, jaati, vamZa and gotra have been used to connote things that I don't personally agree with, I believe people initially used it only to connote the word Family
I was unlucky that I missed 3 such weddings in my family all due to my education, they would definitely have been festivals of joy.

I used the video of Murari to show the happiness of the entire family because of the wedding, in this scene the hero and heroine are related to each other and thus the wedding is in the presensce of the entire extended family of first and second cousins which is just magical especially if you can understand the language.

Each gRahajana (member of the family) enjoys the wedding without any other thoughts hampering their happiness, the joy of all these ppl is a sight to see, only a person who has been in a wedding with his/her parents, siblings, cousins, aunts and uncles will know how it feels.

In today's world we seem to be living niSkula and nirvaMza(i.e, without a family) although we do meet on occasions or holidays the feel of living in the same place is too good. Which is the precise reason why I miss my childhood days when we lived as an extended family and all relatives used to visit us regularly, but then marriages, careers and life in general drove all of us apart, not that I regret them leaving but I do regret them not being there, I would definitely like to meet all of them in one place, there was an opportunity recently on my niece's wedding to do that but alas!!! EXAMS the biggest bane of any student destroyed that chance.

I believe most people of my generation and my senior generations know the pride and joy of being a kaulika(belonging to the family), the pride with which I say I'm a Durbha is something I will never forget or let go.

I believe some day, preferrably my sister's wedding and my wedding I will be
mama parivaareNa saha (with my family) and I will post the pic with pride and joy

Until then
ciraM jiiva - May thy family be blessed with good health
tvaM gaccha - May thy family be blessed with good health and longevity